January 12, 2007
Hard Work the Easy Way
By Lynn Rasmussen in Life Coaching, Relationships & Marriage | Comments (0)
Seth Godin’s Hard Work blog entry compares “one” to “or and the other” in business: Getting and MBA/Keeping your promises. Policies/Judgment. Offering the lowest rate for a cell phone/Not tricking customers with a bait and switch. He’s so good!
I immediately ripped off his formatting and applied it to love and relationships:
| One | |
|---|---|
| Commit to a marriage | Commit to creating a great life |
| Work at your relationship | Play with possibility |
| Talk out problems | Eliminate problems with design |
| Fix the relationship | Create a better life |
| Fear chaos and breakdown | Welcome chaos as part of the creative process |
| Communicate | Create a good feeling |
| Agree | Appreciate difference |
| Get serious | Lighten up |
| Solve past problems | Create a better now |
| Distrust instant fixes | Shift everything with changes in attitude and routine |
| Compromise by choosing either/or | Design a better way |
| Struggle with how things were | Imagine how life could be |
| Express anger and fear | Get curious about anger and fear |
| Hope for sexual sponteneity | Make time to explore sexuality |
| See love as illusive | See love as a flow to open up to |
| Put work, children, chores first | Put good feelings and love first |
| Express opinions | Express possibilities |
| Take a stand | Consider all possible stands |
| Be right | Be open |
| Keep order | Risk mixing it up to find a new, better order |
| Trust your reasoning | Trust feelings to tell you the quality of your reasoning |
| Lower your expectations | Create an image of an ideal life together |
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