Category Archive for Love

Okay, it wasn’t breakfast with him, technically. We all had breakfast and His Holiness the Dali Lama showed up. It was at the local lama’s house in his yard.

500 people attended but it felt like 100. We sat in the stade of the trees and the Dali Lama arrived to speak on the back porch of the lama’s house, decorated with the orange, red, blue, green mandala paintings and curtains. The Secret Service in suits and shades was strategically in place. The local Maui Police swat team surrounded the perimeter.

He is the sweetest man who laughs at his own jokes. After doing the Tibetan hands together, bow thing, he happily waved hello and goodbye.

His message (my interpretation, of course):

Happiness and good feelings show that we are open and we see the world more clearly.
Anger, fear, and forms of unhappiness are destructive emotions. In those states of mind, our thinking is distorted.

We all have periods of low moods and distorted thinking. Through our own suffering we learn compassion for others.

He also said to stick with your religion and to learn from others.

I felt so blessed.

My friend Nancy came up with the title: The Virgin Book Tour. My very first time. Sometimes awkward, a bit scary and uncomfortable. Not quite natural yet.

I haven’t been wildly happy with my delivery. I’m good enough for now but I’m not always spouting out the tightest sound bites.

I woke up this morning with an insight: What I really want to do is blow holes in the “Love is work” mantra.

Everywhere relationship experts are saying that love and relationships take work. I so disagree. Love is a whole lot easier and more fun than we’ve been lead to believe.

Love is free. Love is built in to our natures.
Love is the feeling associated with the flow of information and energy between people. You can’t get more of it with work.

Love is everywhere. All you have to do is open up to what’s already here.

I can relax now. The book tour’s going to get a lot easier.